Few things are more frustrating, but this is a tried and true technique for insomnia. I know, because I've used it. The idea of being aware of your breath comes out of meditation and counting exhales instead of inhales takes you out of what you'd normally do. It's not intuitive to count out-breaths . . .
Have you ever struggled with giving condolences? Me, too. Grief is intimidating to see. Part of it is that we know we'll feel it one day for someone we love--or we've already felt it--and that reminder can be painful. Well-meaning friends and relatives can often trip on themselves when trying to . . .
Do we choose? Years ago when I first heard the concept that we choose our family, I was horrified. "No way!" I thought. And then never gave it another thought. Why should I have? It isn't true, I thought. It's B.S. Until years later, when my spiritual path became clearer. Or, shall I say, my . . .
Have you ever wanted to connect with a loved one on the other side without using a medium? Or maybe even talk with the Divine, yourself? I know, it sounds pretty far out, doesn't it? Maybe you can't entertain even the idea of it. I understand that. I'm a pretty big skeptic, myself. Still, many . . .
Feeling can be messy, especially when it concerns the hard parts of life. Like loss. Or illness. Which are similar because illness does involve loss in one way or another. But those feelings? The ones that surround loss and sickness? They can be scary things. So painful. Have you ever been afraid . . .
The Buddhists can be a little grim. I don't subscribe completely to their view of life. But I did see this beautiful quote about grief that anyone who has felt the emotion will appreciate. "If grief is deep and imponderable, it is because love is deep and imponderable, too. The world presents us . . .
I've done some pretty cringe-worthy things in my life. I still do some. I can be short and snappy and not so nice. No, I'm not going to pretend I'm holier-than-thou because I'm not. I can be as petty as anyone else. Sure, I catch myself afterwards and shake my head. "A work in progress," I think to . . .
This can be a very hard lesson, indeed. Because many times we're driven by what people think of us. Even if we're not conscious of it. People see us through their own filters: their likes, dislikes, insecurities, talents--all of it. Some try to manipulate how people see them. Look at some of the . . .
Don't you love being kind to others? Brightening their day, even if it means just a quick call, a thoughtful gesture, a sweet compliment? Opportunities to do something kind and thoughtful are all around us. Some don't take much effort at all, such as a supportive word or two when someone needs it. . . .
There is always a story. No one makes a big life leap without some sort of catalyst. These things aren't casual decisions. A professional woman I met at a networking event sent me an email last month that went something like this: I took a look at your website and while it was full of facts, there . . .