Who would’ve thought listening –real listening, without distraction — would be such a rarity in the 21st century? That kind of listening that shows our complete focus is on the other person, that we are really taking in what they have to say, what’s on their mind, their point, the spoken stuff and–even as important–the unspoken stuff. That’s the stuff that takes our full attention. Otherwise, we don’t notice it.
Being heard is a gift my good friends give to me and, I hope, I give to them. But listening is not the norm. Sadly.
It’s distraction that’s the norm in this world of ours, since we carry with us at all times a device that connects us with not only our friends but millions upon millions of others.
So yes, listening is a rarity these days.
My friend, Walker Thornton, usually blogs about sex. But she’s allowed me to share one of her posts about listening. And here it is: