Do you ever wonder how many people think about making the most of their life? Of living fully and completely, in every sense of the word? Some seem to do this naturally, while others struggle.
At school the other day, I had an epiphany. Our mentor and I were getting coffee in the school kitchen and he said, “You know, Carol, here’s the thing about you. You show up. You show up and you wrestle with it, whatever it is. And that’s all that anyone can ask of another.”
His comment took me aback. What does it mean to “show up”? I wondered.
I think he was talking about being present in every moment of our lives. Of feeling every emotion: joy, fear, pain, grief–and working it. Even if it’s hard. Or painful. Figuring out what it means to our life, how it can be used for our life’s highest and best purpose. For personal growth. Or for our happiness. And actually, for our success.
In my life that’s sometimes looked a bit like drama-queen stuff. I see now, though, that it wasn’t just that. It was wrestling with stuff.
One of my closest friends for many years was a flatliner, someone uncomfortable with the ups and downs of life. She went out of her way to keep herself above discomfort and even above joy. She ran under the radar and she manipulated every situation so that it was to her advantage, but not necessarily for her growth.
Me thinks she had some stuff to work through and probably still does. Because she was terrified of showing up for her life. So she didn’t.
But that’s really what we’re supposed to do with the gift of life we’ve been given. Show up.
Life is about showing up in everything we do. In everything that happens to us. Showing up fully and completely. Feeling it. Working it. And finally, understanding it so we can use it to create a more fulfilling, worthwhile and even rewarding life.
So, pull up a chair. Show up. That’s all it takes.