Sounds pretty simple, doesn’t it? If you need something, ask for it.
Sometimes, it IS simple.
“Can I have the salt?”
“Could you hang your coat over there?”
“Would you like to have lunch tomorrow?”
Those are the easy asks.
Some asks are harder:
What’s a lot harder is asking for something that you need. Asking for help. Especially if it’s the personal kind of help. And even harder if you’re asking because you’re sick.
“Can you take me to the doctor’s on Wednesday?”
“Would you be able to pick up a few things for me at the grocery?”
“Can you drive my son to soccer practice on Thursday?”
“Would you mind running a vacuum for me in the living room?”
Those are the harder asks, especially for people who are sick. But that’s when we need the most help.
Most people who ask if they “can do anything” really mean it. Oh, sure, there are a handful who don’t. But in general, if someone offers help, they want to do something. They want to help. So have an answer for them.
Now, not everyone is going to be able to take a kid to practice. But when you aren’t feeling well, help is important. So scale your ask to the degree of friendship you have.
Direct more time-consuming asks to those with whom you’re close, people who have been there for you through thick and thin. These are the people who should be more than happy to come over and lend a helping hand. They’ll spend the night, cook a meal and do all sorts of things that are more time consuming.
There may be little things that others who ask can do–pick up a prescription or some crackers or come over for a cup of tea.
There’s no time for false pride when we’re sick, no time at all. So when someone says “if you need anything, let me know” take them up on it, maybe even in the moment. And if they don’t follow through? It speaks volumes about them. Nothing to do with you.
Give a try!
If you’d like some tips on asking when you’re sick or other helpful information and exercises, see my Guided Journal for Healing HERE at my website, A Healing Spirit. Explore the tabs up top for things that could help you.