Some relationships are complicated, or so we think. But they're really far more simple than that. Most would consider this one a rebound, and it was. And so much more. He was my knight in shining armor when I badly needed one to ride up and save me. He was joy and light and happiness at a time when . . .
I don't know about you, but I can't over-estimate how much I've learned over this past very difficult year. Congratulations! For those of us who made it through the pandemic and all its challenges, a big pat on the back. We made it and if you followed recommended public health practices to stay . . .
The incivility of the world around us gets to me, I have to admit. The chasms between us seem infinitely huge. How did we lose the important traits of friendship, love, brotherhood? When I think about how far apart so many of us are today, it makes me sad for our world. And the next . . .
A truism is something that is obviously true. But no matter how obvious, sometimes we just don't want to believe they are true. Here are a few examples of truisms, as I see them. If you have some of your own, I'd love you to add them in the comments. When someone shows you who they are, you . . .
Before dawn 21 years ago today the call came that my mother had died. It was not a surprise; she'd been sick for the better part of a year. I left home in 1972. It was my mother's fondest wish that I return, but I had a career and had built a life--several, really--and to be honest, as Bob Dylan . . .
When we let people into the sacred space of our lives, they must deserve to be there. And want to be there. They must give you a place in their lives. And--this is key--THEY must think YOU are too important to lose. Bottom line: They must be additive to our lives. Whether they are a family . . .
Each of us goes through challenging periods in our lives, times of struggle and pain. If we're lucky, we count one or two trusted comrades among our friends. Folks who are able to see us and hear us --because the truth is that we all need to be seen and heard, especially in times of trouble. And in . . .
One of my friends lives in a state of constant regret. Shoulda, coulda, woulda. I can see how it happened: Traumatized at an early age by a dominant, unreasonable and abusive father, this sensitive soul built protective walls. The walls weren't strong enough and didn't keep them safe. But what . . .
When the veil that obscures our vision is removed, the perfect clarity that results is a beautiful thing. Oh, it may not be the most comfortable thing, but it clears the path for us to move forward. The bumps and bruises that are a normal part of life chip away at the veil obscuring our vision, . . .
The Mexican Day of the Dead is actually several days, during which loved ones who have transitioned are honored with altars, offerings and visits to the cemetery. During these days, the spirits of the dead are invited to come for a visit. The holiday falls within my own biggest season of loss: my . . .