I knew it was a bad time to see the documentary. I knew I’d cry. And yet, I had to watch it.
Maybe, like me, you know the broad outlines of the story of Joey and Rory Feek, country music performers who, shortly after they had their beloved daughter, Indiana, discovered Joey had cervical cancer. Terminal.
Beautiful and happy Indiana was very much loved and to complicate the story, to make it all the more poignant, Indiana was born with Down Syndrome. I knew that the story would end with Joey having to say goodbye to her beautiful, much-loved daughter and her beloved husband, Rory.
Still, I had to watch To Joey, With Love. Even if it WAS the day of my own Pap test.
Sometimes, you’ve just got to cry like a baby. Sometimes, you’ve got to engage the cleansing power of tears.
Joey was a beautiful soul and a beautiful woman. She was love epitomized. Her choice to not pursue additional treatment, to let go, be carried by her deep faith and let God make the choice, had to have been difficult, given all she would leave behind. All the same, or maybe because of what she was leaving behind, her story is inspirational.
Cancer is a bitch. Once you’ve seen what it leaves in its wake you never forget it.
Cancer is what inspired A Healing Spirit and its products.
But I’m terrified of it.
Luck of the draw
I don’t like to read or watch things about people suffering, including suffering from cancer.
I don’t like stories that end sadly, as Joey’s story did.
I wonder how it is that some of us are lucky and some of us not.
And yet, with my tears and my sadness, I came away from the documentary with the kind of inspiration I file away in case I need it one day.
I see Rory’s face in my mind’s eye a lot. I access her courage, her bravery, just for a minute. I try to access her faith. And like her faith, I’m not so sure I could access the kind of beautiful love she had for the world, for others, for Rory, her family and for her daughter. I bow before an angel on earth.
If you don’t know the story of Joey and Rory, you’ll find it all over the internet. You’ll find Rory’s blog and a new memoir he wrote. You’ll find the couple’s CDs and Joey’s last recording of Hymns.
And if you can find the documentary on demand, do watch it. And come away with the understanding that life is meant to be lived right til the end. And we have control over that.
Most important, cry.
Yes, sometimes you just have to let yourself cry.
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