“I’d kill for my kids,” she told me once. “They’ve always been my priority.”
They have nothing to do with her, any longer, though, because she was never their mom: she was their Dad. Before the surgery.
Now she lives a true life, as herself.
Because nature played a vicious trick and made her physical self not match who she was inside. Her psyche. Her self image.
She was always a woman but, you might say, she suffered a birth defect in the match of her physical gender to her psyche.
She’s still the same person she was as Dad, just a different gender. But these kids won’t accept it. Grown kids. Super-accomplished kids who had every opportunity. Those opportunities were provided by their Dad, who did very well and made sure they could, too. To not take in the torment their father had to have been in his entire life? Shame on them.
So do they just not get it? or are they just stupid?
I would ask the same question of anyone who thinks that gender changes or even sexual orientation are something capricious, that people do on a whim. That these kind of decisions are a choice.
Hard to miss. If you don’t avert your eyes.
Because there has been a whole boatload of information out there about transgender, this mistake of nature, in recent years. So the idea that even with all the info that’s available, these children would reject their father for correcting a birth error? For living as her true self? It angers me even as it makes me sad.
I know people who think the former Bruce Jenner is faking it, too. Doing it for publicity. I mean, what the hell are these people smoking? What are the chances that a super-athlete with so many accomplishments would allow himself to be made a laughing stock by switching genders? Slim to none comes to mind.
Now, I don’t disagree that Caitlyn’s publicity and need to make a huge public deal of her switch on reality shows is shameful. But reality shows seem to be an aspiration for many, these days. I think she could’ve gone on with her change in a more tasteful manner. But that doesn’t change the fact that nature played a trick and her and she is correcting it.
What’s not to get about that?
It irks me when people try to force things into binary categories: black or white. Good or bad. Pro or con. The truth is that there are many shades of grey in our diverse culture and I see that as a good thing. It behooves us to guard against the knee-jerk reaction and look more closely at the nuances.
Because this lovely trans woman friend? She should not be treated this way by her children. No.
Related to this is all the information about how helpful medical marijuana is in many, many different applications.
And yet, some of these lawmakers act like it causes reefer madness.
What is it they don’t get? Are are they just stupid?
Here’s what I think: They’re just stupid. All of them.
And it’s all part of the dumbing down of America that’s gone on in my life time. Which upsets me greatly.
But then, there is the young couple I know of who gave their new baby a gender-neutral name. “In case later on she wants to change her gender.”
So maybe there’s hope.