There seems to be a whole lotta pride out there, these days, and I’m all for it.
But when the internet allows everyone the opportunity to strut their stuff for all eyes, we see things we wish we hadn’t.
This post began when a friend blogged about photos of quite senior women in their mostly naked glory. The photo above was not one of them, but it gives you the drift without exposing too much.
Wrinkles. Age spots. Varicose veins. Flab. All the hallmarks of aging were defiantly on display for the world to see.
Do you think this is sexy? was the question.
A few months ago a fat activist I know got into a big internet fight with web sensation “fit mom” that leaked over into mainstream media in a big way.
Activist has a lingerie shop for big girls and posted photos of curvy girls wearing nothing but fishnet as part of her social media marketing. Since I “liked” her page I’d sometimes be surprised by one of those photos appearing in my newsfeed.
The photos didn’t offend me. The bombing of my newsfeed with them did.
Art has a long tradition of painting women with less than perfect bodies. Some of the paintings are just beautiful.
Some fat women are more beautiful than others. Younger women are more aesthetically pleasing, with their smooth skin and great spray tan.
Also true of men. I don’t fantasize about wrinkly grandpa in between the sheets. Also, there’s a difference between sexy and aesthetically pleasing.
Men and women both can be super-sexy because of their personalities, their laugh, their attitudes, their brain–but they’d never be cover models.
Ok, so here’s what I think: we’re becoming a nation of exhibitionists.
It used to be cool to have a gorgeous set of boudoir photos taken and give them to your lover as a gift for his eyes alone.
Didn’t matter what shape you were in, or how old, you always looked beautiful.
Now, those photos are posted on the internet for everyone’s viewing pleasure.
They say it’s “empowering”. It makes a statement about our society.
I say it’s bullshit.
Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should. Regardless of age and shape.
Said an 80-something woman I know: “These women should be empowered by putting their brains on display. That’s real empowerment. Not the body.”
I agree. Objections to these kind of photos are not about disempowerment or discrimination.
They’re about values.
Also about good taste.
There’s a time and a place to strut your stuff.
The beach? DO it. Strut proudly, whether you are old, young, fat or skinny. Show it all. You’re at the beach. You’re SUPPOSED to.
I remember seeing a European man, fat, walking on Sarasota beach wearing a Speedo. At the time I smiled, but he was on the beach, not on my newsfeed.
Your bedroom? Yes, of course. Show it all!
Marketing sex toys or crotchless panties? Use a little subtlety. Or email them to me. I don’t want to see them in living color on my newsfeed.
I know you’ve met before, but clearly, you’ve forgotten one another.