Misery loves company?
I don’t buy it.
I can’t thing of anything less appealing than spending time talking about the various things that go wrong in our lives.
If I’m suffering, the last thing I want to do is have someone else suffer alongside of me.
On the rare occasions that my girlfriends and I talk about our ailments–some are the normal things that occur with aging and others more serious–we do end up laughing at ourselves:
“We sound like our mothers!” one will say to the other, and it’s true.
But here’s what we get that our moms’ generation might not have:
Words give things power.
When we focus on what’s wrong instead of what’s right, we’re seeding the negative and allowing it to grow. And like weeds, the negative stuff can choke out the beauty of life.
So it’s up to us to determine if we want to give negative stuff that kind of power.
Do we want to keep company with misery?
I don’t know about you, but i know my answer.
There’s no doubt that by this age either we –or people we know and love– are facing some daunting challenges. And I’m not suggesting we ignore those things. What I do believe, though, is that the more we focus on the negative, the worse we’ll feel.
For me, it’s helpful to acknowledge the issue and then move on to the real business of life:
finding joy in the world around us.
Because no matter how bad our circumstances might be, it’s there.
All we have to do is look.