That’s right. No one pays us any attention. We can’t get work, we can’t get men, our lives are over.
Yep, that’s right. Or so we’re told. And that’s what many women at midlife and after believe.
Apparently, I didn’t get the memo.
Because I don’t feel invisible at all.
I feel strong, confident and empowered.
I look back on a long, interesting and successful career with pride and know that my productive life is still not over. I’m doing the things I want to do –for money and for myself–and I am definitely not invisible. Just check my bylines and this blog. And the new business idea I’ll be implementing in 2015.
When I was 53 I had three marriage proposals. I didn’t marry any of them, but I did marry someone else. That’s right. Four. And that one came when I was 57.
I call “foul” on that aging and invisibility thing.
I’m anything BUT invisible.
Am I so special? Nahh. A femme fatale? Hardly. (She says, as she laughs heartily at the very idea.)
But everywhere I look? I see possibility.
Yes, even at my advanced age. Possibility.
Think you’re invisible? Then you are. Because how we talk about ourselves becomes who we are.
If you find yourself feeling invisible, ask yourself, to whom am I invisible and how much do they matter?
Here’s what I believe: If we read and listen to empowering messages? We’re empowered to be active, involved and alive.
If we’re active and involved and alive, how can we be invisible?
If we pay attention to those who say we’re cut out of consideration for most opportunities because we’re past midlife? We’ve given up before we’ve even tried.
Here’s what I believe with all my heart: If you know who you are, you don’t have to let anyone–including society–define you. Because you have defined yourself.
Set your own rules.
I don’t let negative input in. Sure, I’ve probably missed out on some opportunities, but I refuse to believe it’s because I’m older. Just like I refuse to believe I am invisible.
Because you know what? I’m not invisible.
And neither are you. Because if you were so invisible? I wouldn’t be hearing you talk about being invisible.