But I think there’s a group of people who agree with me. They are hiding in the closet, and this post is for them.
I am on social media overload. I am saturated with it, and I don’t even do as much as a lot of people, who seem to live on Facebook and other social media sites.
Don’t get me wrong. The internet and social media have brought me some of my most fun friends. I wouldn’t have missed that part of it for the world. My two closest guy friends go back to the earliest days of AOL chat rooms. One of the women on our NY trip I met on an entertainment blog. I’ve got a brand new, way-fun friend I met through Facebook–more than one.
But. Social media can be such a time suck.
Who has time to really watch their Twitter feed? Not I. I still don’t get why people love Twitter.
Who has time to read even more than a couple of the many blog links posted in the groups I frequent? Not I. I’d love to–I just don’t have that much time in my day. And I’m semi-retired!
Who has time to comment extensively on a Linked In discussion? I’ve done it, but geez, all discussions are time consuming to follow.
Who can keep up with the various ways the businesses we “like” communicate with us?
I marvel at how so many seem to be on social media all of the time. When do they raise their kids? Make money? Run errands? Hell, when do they have sex? Does anyone but me (and my reading group) read books any more? What happened to a leisurely hour with a magazine? A walk? Playing with the dog? Must we be busy every single minute of every single day? Do they even sleep? (Don’t answer that, midlife women!)
And is there anything as irritating as being out with someone who is so busy texting, posting on social media or emailing–consumed with what’s happening in the ether that he or she is not with you in the moment? More involved in what’s happening elsewhere than with the here and now? I absolutely hate that. “Be Here Now” is an affirming lifestyle, not a piece of philosophy we think sounds good but can’t put into practice.
So, I’ve begun to reclaim my life and my time. After all, I have a book to write.
I no longer feel guilty when I limit my time on the Internet. When I don’t keep up with my social media groups. When I don’t post my blog 20 times a day somewhere.
It’s time to re-look at our priorities, that’s what I think. And put social media in the proper perspective.
If you’re with someone who’s busy with their online life while in your company, just say it: “Be here now! We’re hanging out, we’re playing, talk to ME, not your social media group!”
And put your own smart phone away.
If you’re at a fun dinner, enjoy the people there, instead of posting instant photos of the wine, the meal, the people. This is case where “checking in” is really “checking out.”
Yeah, friends of mine, get ready. I’m going to be insufferable about this.