George Clooney and Ben Affleck think they’ve got paparazzi problems? Today, anyone can see their most unguarded moments publicized on social media, thanks to amateur photogs armed with a cell phone camera and no respect for personal boundaries.
Yes, there’s a new category–social media paparazzi–who snap and post, whether you want them to or not, showing poor social media manners.
Ugly photos that show every snaggle tooth and extra pound.
Inappropriate photos of people doing things they may not want their family–or potential employers–to see.
Intrusive photos of people at their most vulnerable, that say more about the photographer than the subject.
Yes, today, everyone’s a potential paparrazo and everyone’s subject to intrusion of their personal boundaries.
You can do your best to set limits. I do. I moderate Facebook tags to be sure they don’t surprise me by appearing on my timeline without my ok. In fact, you can control who posts to your timeline, too.
Of course, that doesn’t mean the shot won’t appear on the poster’s own timeline.
And I set my boundaries clearly: my friends know that I don’t like to be papped. I was at lunch with a girlfriend the other day who took a photo of our wine glasses and said “I know you don’t like to be papped.” Or something like that. The point is, I’ve made my boundaries clear.
Not too long ago I saw a photo on social media of someone in the hospital. That person looked like shi t and probably felt like it too. And yet, in one of the most stunning displays of social media inappropriateness, there was a photo of that person in all their feel-like-shi t glory for everyone to see.
Now, I have some photos of a friend in the hospital looking like crap. Also laughing her head off in a really ugly but funny way. None of those have appeared on social media and they never will. Instead, I sent them to her for a laugh, and laugh we did. PRIVATELY.
Good taste and good manners never go out of style. They’re the same as they’ve always been. If you wouldn’t invade someone’s privacy in other ways, why would it be ok to do it on social media?
Maybe because you have no respect? No manners? No class?
Probably. Just saying.