We all tell ourselves stories. They may be true, or they may be things we want — or even need — to believe about ourselves.
Here’s one: I have an addictive personality.
Or how about I’m not afraid to fly. I just don’t have time to travel.
I’m too old to go back to school. Or I don’t have enough money to travel.
There’s I don’t have time to.… and fill in the blank: exercise, read, learn piano—whatever.
And no one’s interested in what I have to say.
How about I don’t know why I can’t.
Here’s what we never say:
I don’t want to.
Because the stories we tell ourselves and others? They serve the purpose of letting us off the hook so that we don’t own our behavior. So we don’t take responsibility.
They keep us from changing, evolving, doing something good for ourselves.
They keep us stuck in the status quo.
They might not even be true, those stories we tell ourselves.
What stories are you telling yourself that you might want to rewrite?