Divorce is hard. It just is. There's no way around it, either. To get out the other side we have to go through it. Period. If you're the person who has been left and especially if the leaving hasn't been, well, the cleanest, it can be even more difficult. We talk a lot today about "closure," how . . .
Some of us get a little squirrelly when a friend's long-term marriage ends. It's called "gray divorce" and if ever our friend needed our support, it's during this time, when their entire world changes drastically. But are we really there for them? Maybe we don't know what to do or say, so we do . . .
Forty-two years ago today I walked down the aisle of St. Ambrose Church in Rochester, NY and married my adorable 24-year-old college sweetheart, who, coincidentally enough, happened to be from my hometown. If you believe in coincidences. We made it through law school for him and grad school for me. . . .
If there's one thing women are most interested in, it's how my husband and I got back together some 27 years after our divorce. It seems inconceivable that we could resurrect a marriage after so much had gone down and after so many years. I understand the fascination. I'm fascinated, too, and it . . .
To my darling and beloved sisters who think they need a man to become empowered, I just want to say this: You can empower yourself. And you SHOULD empower yourself. Because anything else is not empowerment at all. It is dependence. I know it is hard to be alone after so many years of being . . .
What is it about being alone that instills such fear in people? Two beautiful, accomplished, vivacious women in their mid-50s I know are struggling to embrace a new life without the security blanket of a mate. And I mean struggling. One woman knows she's not "in love" with her mate of several . . .
"Do you think monogamy's natural?" I asked a girlfriend at lunch the other day. "Absolutely NOT!!" She was emphatic. "We're raised to believe it's natural and easy--no one tells us just how much work it takes." We laughed, because we are both serial monogamists who know just exactly how much . . .
It was a high-profile divorce for a small city where not much of significance went on. They worked together at a company that was getting attention and one thing led to another, a divorce. Pretty soon, there was a new blended family around town. I’d see them at church every Sunday, he in khakis, . . .
Today is our anniversary. Actually, it's our anniversaries. Plural. We've been and also are celebrating this wedding anniversary How can this be?After 37 years apart, we remarried in 2009. On the same date, at the same time as we married in 1972. 3:00 p.m. Eastern time.No, we didn't . . .
Divorce is a reality.A sad one, but reality, nonetheless.Here's another reality of divorce(or any split):It's none of our business.A divorce (or a romantic split of any kind) is a personal issue between the couple. The outside world knows nothing about what really happened, even if they think . . .