"I have many “spouses”–men and woman who are there for me in ways my husband simply cannot possibly be. I love him, but he is not everything to me, and if I thought he was, I’d be disappointed and lonely. We have a good marriage, a tight “family” bond between the two of us, but it is rounded . . .
There's good writing advice and there's bad writing advice. So let's talk about that. I know a lot of bloggers and some writers who quote writer Anne LaMott, who famously wrote: "You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they . . .
Have you ever heard one of those apologies that are really not an apology at all? Like this one: I'm sorry you feel that way. I'm all for sincere apologies. But when I hear that one? Well, it's not a true apology. What it's really saying is that what I said or did is ok, but your reaction is the . . .
This is a question about gender roles and expectations in relationships. It came about after a conversation with friends in which I wondered what, if anything had changed in our expectations of genders in relationships: what we find acceptable and what we think isn't so cool. I'm going to lay out a . . .
How lovely it would be if all relationships endured for a lifetime. Of course, they endure for more than a lifetime, that's my belief, but sometimes, in this lifetime, a relationship comes to a natural end. Most of us are reluctant to leave another. Sometimes it's because we don't want to be . . .
One of the people dearest to my heart said that to me the other day. She'd just split with a long-time guy, someone she cared deeply for, but didn't love in that special, sizzling kind of way. She'd been putting off this breakup for, well, years. Yes, many years. Even thought finding love was high . . .
Being alone is a topic that's come up among my friends and peers repeatedly recently and I think it's our age. As we pass middle age, we start thinking of our future as older and even elderly persons. If we aren't sharing our life now with someone, it seems as though everyone else in our peer group . . .
Divorce is hard. It just is. There's no way around it, either. To get out the other side we have to go through it. Period. If you're the person who has been left and especially if the leaving hasn't been, well, the cleanest, it can be even more difficult. We talk a lot today about "closure," how . . .
There's a lot going on in my life and only so much time, which means I can't do everything. As part of my ongoing effort to set limits for myself, I'll sometimes look at relationships that are beginning to feel unbalanced. Sometimes I feel as if I am not giving enough. But more often, taking stock . . .
Ancient lovers had some romantic thoughts....they believed that the spirit was carried in the breath and that's how kissing united souls. I can't say that they're wrong, can you? Have you ever experienced the uniting of souls with just a kiss? A kiss isn't just a kiss, not at all. It can be the . . .