The other day, one of my nephews sent me a card that I treasure. In it he quoted something I had said about true happiness only coming from living an authentic life. Being who we are at our core. Or, as Edgar Cayce put it, “To thine own self be true.”
It made me think about living authentically, and why people don’t.
It’s way easier to be authentic when you’re older and by that I mean over 50. By then, most of us have learned that being anything but true to ourselves gets us nowhere. Or, maybe we’re just too tired to put up any pretense.
When we’re younger, way too often we’re still managing impressions of us, trying–at any cost– to not let others see the insecurities in the person behind the curtain.
Or we’re afraid to be our true selves. We are afraid that if people really see us, they won’t like who we are. They won’t approve. They’ll reject us.
Judgment features strongly in our Judeo-Christian society and it can make us insecure about being who we are. Who wants to be judged by another and found lacking?
But with any luck (and a whole lot of work on ourselves), by the time we get to midlife, we’ve become more secure in ourselves and ok with letting the world behind the curtain. We see that living a life to please others won’t fulfill us. We can’t live our purpose if we’re living someone else’s view of it.
It’s true that some of us are still tormented by insecurities and unable to be true to ourselves, not entirely.
I think, though, that all it takes is one step. And after you’ve taken that one step out? Take another.
Be yourself. No apologies.
Because what you’ll find is that the judgment of others just doesn’t matter. Not at all.
You’re perfectly ok just the way you are. How could you not be? You are a creation of the Divine, and Mother/Father God makes no mistakes..