Texting is impersonal. Don’t you think? Really, it’s best for a quick check in or making arrangements to meet and not for personal messages.
It is never a substitute for a personal telephone call if something significant has happened.
BIRTHDAY TEXTS are only a half step above Facebook birthday cards. If I know someone, I send a card with a personal note. I make a call if they’re close friends. I do not let an impersonal text stand in for a personal contact.
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CONGRATULATIONS! I think texts are fine for new job, new home or other standard congratulations. But if it’s a new baby, a graduation, a wedding or engagement? Call. Send a card with a personal note. Make the friend feel special.
A text doesn’t do that.
CONDOLENCES. I’ve just seen this one in action and nothing makes me more annoyed: If someone close has has lost a loved one or a beloved pet, do not text your condolences. CALL. VISIT. Mail a CARD with a personal note. Take that moment to make a personal connection, heart to heart. Even a Millennial I know who texts often about everything called as soon as he heard Riley had died. Because he knew how much our boy meant to us. Our petsitter came right over within two hours. So if you are close friends or family, a text is a lame way to send condolences.
YOUR SISTER ROSE IS DEAD. There’s an old joke about a singing telegram about notification of death of a loved one that fits. But here’s the short version: Do not text! Back before texts a member of my family emailed that my favorite uncle had died. It shocked me so badly I had to leave work. So if someone dies, DO. NOT. TEXT. NOTIFICATION. CALL. Oh. Here’s the video on the old joke. Yeah, you had to be there back in the day.
RELATIONSHIP NEWS FLASH: Relationships carried on through text are not real relationships. Text to make arrangements to actually have a date but not to develop a relationship. There’s no context in texts, for one. And it’s distant. And a really, really ineffective way to get to know someone.
It’s now time for the reader participation part of this post. I would love your input on texting or your best story about inappropriate texting–in the Comments below. Thank you!