Are there people in your world that just don’t like you? It’s OK if there are. After all, not everyone will like everyone. But even if we know this intellectually, our feelings are another story. It’s natural to feel hurt and to want to waver off course, off of our true north.
I know this because I can be a little bit of an acquired taste, at least for some. And as I have said before, like Popeye, “I yam what I yam and that’s all I can be.”
A few months ago, I ran across this excerpt from a book by Rebecca Campbell called Light is the New Black:
You are not for everyone
The world is filled with people who, no matter what you do, will point blank not like you. But it is also filled with those will love you fiercely.
They are your people.
You are not for everyone and that’s OK. Talk to the people who can hear you.
Don’t waste your precious time and gifts trying to convince them of your value, they won’t ever want what you’re selling. You’ll be wasting both your time and theirs and will likely inflict unnecessary wounds, which will take precious time to heal. You are not for them and they are not for you; politely wave them on and continue along your way.
Sharing your path with someone is a sacred gift; don’t cheapen this gift by rolling yours in the wrong direction.
Keep facing your true north.
~Rebecca Campbell in Light is the New Black
While it’s good reality-check ourselves and our behavior, we don’t always have to change to “fit in” or for someone to like us. There’s no need to defend or justify ourselves. Sometimes, we’re just not a match for the other person.
Keep facing your true north is brilliant advice for anyone, at any age.