This is a question about gender roles and expectations in relationships. It came about after a conversation with friends in which I wondered what, if anything had changed in our expectations of genders in relationships: what we find acceptable and what we think isn’t so cool.
I’m going to lay out a scenario and ask you for a response. Even a quick response would be great–and if the responses are interesting enough, I’ll base a future post on the concept of changing (or not changing) gender roles.
Here’s the scenario, and for the purposes of this post, we’re talking only about heterosexual couples.
A heterosexual couple fall in love. They’re both smart, college-educated and have had fairly equivalent upbringings.
The man makes average income and is likely to stay at the level for his entire career. The woman makes twice that much and will stay at the level for her entire career. To make it easier, let’s say no children are or will be in the picture.
Here’s the question for women readers:
What are your feelings about making a lifetime commitment to him, knowing that you will always carry the larger financial burden? In your response, please give your general age group.
Here’s the question for male readers:
What are your feelings about making a lifetime commitment to her, knowing that she will always carry the larger financial burden? In your response, please give your general age group.