What do we live for,
if it is not to make life less difficult to each other?
This is how I feel. All the drama between people is unnecessary–and wouldn’t happen if we understood what is expected by our highest and best selves.
I know people who are so stingy they squeak. They’re not just stingy with money but with compliments, validation, kind words. When I consider why that’s true, I can usually pinpoint some trauma they’ve been through, usually as a kid. Some way they, themselves, were not given to and so they don’t even know how to give. Oh, maybe they get the benefit of giving on an intellectual level.
But I’d bet dollars to donuts that they’ve never felt that warming of the heart, that frisson of love that comes from a gift they’ve given and the gifts they get may not be well-received.
My 12-year-old toy poodle is really good at love. Sometimes, for no reason at all, he’ll jump up on me and start kissing me ecstatically, joyfully, repeatedly. I call it “love-bombing.” I can’t tell you how much his joyful act warms my heart, how hard I giggle at it and how it makes my day. And this is a rescue dog that didn’t have such a lucky first 10 years.
Taking the idea from him, I am dedicating 2020 to love bombing. Oh, don’t worry–I won’t jump up and ecstatically kiss you! But if you’re in need of something, count on me to step up. If you want an ear, I’m there. And you don’t necessarily have to ask: if I see you’re having a low day don’t be surprised to get some kind of validation from me. And for no reason at all you might get a card, a gift, a note. Or something you need. Are you fighting a health battle? Are you grieving? You’ll hear from me.
If we can make life a bit easier for someone, if that’s within our ability, why wouldn’t we? We don’t have to be rich to do that, either: kind words are free. Postage is cheap (although not as cheap as it used to be!). You get the drift.
I want to start a kindness revolution where the only weapon is love bombs. Won’t you join me?
____________________Don’t forget my beautiful gifts at A Healing Spirit. Candles, guided journals, affirmations are all great love bombs!